From the article: Anger and Buddhism
Is anger a big barrier for you? How does anger impact your life, and how do you work with anger in your practice? Share Your Experiences
New expectations.
- It occurs to me that letting go of expectations that others will behave according to one's own code of ethics will release a lot of anger. Of course you should still protect yourself but let go of the need for the other people to change their ways. Much like a driver screaming at "bad" drivers every day, we must learn to drive (and live our lives) calmly but defensively and let go of futile rage...
- —Guest Working on it....
Anger
- If this place exists as wavelength-a reasonable hypothesis for a constant change universe-then all things can be considered wavelength. We are conscious of some wavelengths more than others. The ones we don't see well, like radiation, see more affecting because this "physical" system is made out of stuff we long ago (or now, if you wish) choose to not know. I can sitll get angry or frustrated, and when I do it always turns out that the anger is a symphathetic wavelength of unconscious identification. I look at it and generally the anger comes off. I get that this is a process I'm simply going to have to go through. It seems to me, likely, that no one ever does anything wrong. God can't err in a kingdom of self-creation. If we are viewpoints of God, then being wrong or evil is just a point of view. A decision to make, is, "do I want to understand?" One's reality will lie within what is understood. Stepping outside that reality allows one freedom to go anywhere.
- —KevinJOsborne
Dealing
- I am a long time Buddhist. I have had a long exposure to both a dysfunctional family and a Buddhist Master. And it is still no cake walk dealing with my family. I am going to try to delete some of my emotion in writing this post! My family member has taken to seeing a Mister on the side. She is married, visits me telling her supposed love one she will be enjoying me and my wife. But in reality is visiting as much as possible a long lost high school boyfriend. I recently tell my Brother of my anger over being used this way. He reacts by challenging me as not practicing Buddhism because I have not already cut out my anger. Now, I am angry at him! I trust him by confiding in him of my anger, and he betrays me, I think, by taking a cheap shot at me. I think these circumstances would bring anger and disgust to any healthy person. But then, my family is not that healthy. I will deal with this, but it is bullshit and anger... that all my Buddhist training did not prepare me for.
- —Guest Long time
Anger
- I find this article extremely helpful, and also that it seems to be fully educational, not based on misleading statements or half-truths. Me and my mother have been practising Buddhism, and it sometimes it seems so difficult to let go of negativity. My anger always causes rifts between me and my loved ones, pride being a very big problem for me. Thank you for having written something so useful, and sharing it with us.
- —Guest Lau Siaw Ee
dealing wit anger
- I am still a very young buddhist but i discover wwhen you conquer anger. you will be very peaceful.(Bliss) the feeling of blissfulness is very different from peacefulness. Its like u are in heaven.This kind of state no money on earth can buy.
- —Guest Nyima
The Razor's edge
- I'm going to be completely honest with myself, by saying that anger and impatience and pride which also feeds anger in the form of shame are my biggest defects. I'm a gnostic aspirant which has a TON to do with Buddhist ethics. I must say it's not easy to walk that razor's edge and keep my anger in check. I've started meditating on anger and realizing that everything passes, not easy to do, but helpful nonetheless. Avoiding situations that cause anger is easier said than done. I think what one has to also accept is that difficult situations which can cause anger may and often times do arise. It is up to me to decide if I will form an attachment to the anger ....or not.
- —Guest Gina
Working with anger in Buddhist Practice
- When I got clean from drugs a couple of decades ago, I suddenly realized whilst I wasn't using anything to silent or sedate my raw emotions; I was left with my own garbage to clean up. Instead of repressing or suppressing my feelings which had been a life long practice & pattern. I decided to face my anger head on & give it a voice. I found an isolated place & I screamed until I felt the full brunt of my anger & I was spent. I sat & became very still & found peace. Later I used that experience as a motivator. It showed me how anger grows and feeds on itself. It allowed me to understand how undisciplined, destructive and under resourced one is in that state, no matter how learned or skillful. I learned to read, feel and settle emotions or feelings without seeking an external target. It was a great moment in a growth spurt of awareness. It was a great moment or a growth spurt in awareness. I am a work in progress & I face the my world & the world & I continue to grow.
- —Guest Margot-deepa
wish somebody helps
- I seem to fall in love with the wrong guy . Economically he depends 100% on me . Sometimes I almost belive that he loves me . But I don't trust him at all , caught him lying a thousand times ,but he has this way of explaining that makes you end up being the bad one . Like today since morning his phone rings but he doesn't answer it . Trust me he will come with a nice excuse . Since I met him ,my life has become a mess and I am angry with him for most of the time . Suddenly I have started to feel old ,tired , gained a lot weight . with yoga and meditation for about one week ,I managed to lose weight , became quite energetic and full of life and then went back to him and stopped everything and back to depression . I have many friends but I just felt like maybe somebody will help me with this emotional turbulence I am passing through . I just need rest and peace . I am a good person and this really hurts
- —Guest Jean Oscar
anger
- anger is an ephemeral emotion--just like other emotions. practicing mindfulness of ephemera can result in the wisdom to know that your anger, without your ego, is not possible. since ego and anger are both constructs; the dharma acts as a deconstructor. Wonderful!
- —Guest don
Anger?
- The Buddha has the capacity for anger as well as all the other worlds. Anger itself is neither good nor bad: Anger can give you the power to confont evil. The problem with anger, like all problems, is attachment. Anger is part of being human, so the only way you could get rid of it is by denying your humanity, which is the only Sin in Buddhism (IMHO). Embrace your anger, understand it, and use it to further your enlightenment. That is the Buddha way. Please understand: True Enlightenment comes from embracing your humanity, not denying it.
- —Guest JoeBuddha
Anger and Buddhism
- "It’s important to understand that anger is something created by yourself. It didn’t come swooping out of the ether to infect you. We tend to think that anger is caused by something outside ourselves, such as other people or frustrating events" Great article and I agree with the above, anger is something of the mind, yes, however I think it is not entirely caused by the mind, it has to be influenced by internal(thoughts,breath, heart rate) and external(relative,traffic,kids) casual relationships.
- —Guest Abimael
death and anger toward person
- my son's girfriend will not give our family some o f my son's ashes he just died
- —Guest yolanda smith
Angry environment 2
- The thing is, whenever they yell or curse or speak bad of people, I get angry at them. I'm trying to look at the positive sides of things, but when I talk to them about it, they just want to focus on the bad sides. It has come to the point where I don't say a lot, because I feel they will reject what I say anyway. How do I deal with myself in this situation? I know I can't change anything about them, but I feel bad about both how they act and how I react.
- —Guest Mirre
Angry environment 1
- I have always been very lucky to live in a wonderfull family, but I'm now on an exchange program, where I'm staying with a different kind of family. It's not that they're bad people, just that our personalities really seem to clash. I have always believed in talking things out and not seeking fault in others, but they do not. They have an attatude of it is 'them against the world'. They yell and scream and curse all the time, it is just their way of communicating, but they seem so negative all the time. I've been struggeling with my identity and who I want to be as a result of living here. It is not easy, but it is helping me grow a lot in a small amount of time. I have just recently started to read about buddhism, and the philosophy really speaks to me. The four noble truths, the eightfold plan, they're all the things I've always kind of thought, but never could get a grip on.
- —Guest Mirre
Anger submerged in Hurt
- I flee anger but often end up feeling a sort of growling pain. If I meditate, I find it almost guarantees that I will step back, look at my emotions as just something in the world, and limit its importance. My hope is to embrace my grief and shame as useful parts of my reality, but the delusions that go with them can be let go.
- —Guest Renee
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