From the article: Anger and Buddhism
Is anger a big barrier for you? How does anger impact your life, and how do you work with anger in your practice? Share Your Experiences
- Asking questions are really good thing if you are not understanding anything entirely, but this piece of writing offers good understanding yet.|
- —Guest click the up coming website page
Angry all the time
- It's repressed, submarined, passive-aggressive, but it fills my every waking moment, and I am aware that it is fed by fear... of nearly every change in life, "good" or "bad". It's only when someone stops accepting my behavior as "oh, that's just his way" that the anger, the impotent fury breaks through and finds shameful public expression. This article was very helpful in helping me see another way to approach the "unsatisfactory-ness" of existence.
- —Guest won
working with anger in Buddhist practice
- Here is a clip that will help to get over anger with compassion and metta. www.youtube.com/watch?v=g9A97-By07U short clips www.youtube.com/watch?v=_PTrls8QH www.youtube.com/watch?v=ly0dy_n3eyM www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mx6jOZ-px54
- —Guest shiro.dhamma
- I have a 1911 copy of Lao Tzu's "Wu Wei" so please don't profess to know all about him...he undoubtedly wrote much more than we know of....peace
1.Sources of anger2.Anger is a fire.
- A couple of points. First,we need to recognize that we may all be a bit on edge due the the economy,politics. This can set off our anger at nearby people who have nothing to do with our edginess. It can be quite calming to take a day or two off from TV news, emails, internet news,etc. The principle is simple: try to back off from things you KNOW upset you which allows you to keep your equilibrium in dealing with those around you. It has also been said that for spiritual people to pay constant attention to the world's troubles is a great wrong because we get sucked into all of that and involved with those karmas, which were not ours. The last thing I would like to add about anger is a quote from Maharishi Mahesh Yogi, "Anger is like a fire that burns everything in its path." Now as a practical matter, once you blow up at someone and reveal your deepest suspicions, opinions, etc., about them, then there is NO taking that back, especially if they know it is true. Damage done.
- —Guest Darwida
Anger from War
- Thanks for the article. I was in Special Forces for a long time before I retired from the Army. I noticed that anger was a feature of daily life in the Army, and especially in Afghanistan. I am trying to deal with my own anger about the the way the war went, and what happened to me. This article is very meaningful to me because it helps me see what I am really doing when I am angry.
- —Guest US_Soldier
How to let go.
- To let go of anger is the ideal, since it poisons one's mind and brings with it desires to do worse to others. I try to remain calm, but sometimes things happen that set off a rage spiral within me. My wife and I relocated to start work for a local charity, and when we got to the new city, found that the lady who had to make the arrangements on this side had done nothing. Instead she was spending her time sleeping with her boss. Everyone suspected, but then she tells my wife, in detail, about her affair. My wife naturally tells me. I try and remain silent, but the whole situation was repulsive, so I told my wife to fix it. She told woman's the husband, and then he confronted the guilty party, who denied everything and left. Now myself, and my wife and our two children are a hair's breadth away from homelessness. Not being angry with this wanton woman who has carelessly wreaked havoc on three different families (her boss is married) is very difficult. And I am not succeeding...
- —Guest Yuki
- It occurs to me that letting go of expectations that others will behave according to one's own code of ethics will release a lot of anger. Of course you should still protect yourself but let go of the need for the other people to change their ways. Much like a driver screaming at "bad" drivers every day, we must learn to drive (and live our lives) calmly but defensively and let go of futile rage...
- —Guest Working on it....
- If this place exists as wavelength-a reasonable hypothesis for a constant change universe-then all things can be considered wavelength. We are conscious of some wavelengths more than others. The ones we don't see well, like radiation, see more affecting because this "physical" system is made out of stuff we long ago (or now, if you wish) choose to not know. I can sitll get angry or frustrated, and when I do it always turns out that the anger is a symphathetic wavelength of unconscious identification. I look at it and generally the anger comes off. I get that this is a process I'm simply going to have to go through. It seems to me, likely, that no one ever does anything wrong. God can't err in a kingdom of self-creation. If we are viewpoints of God, then being wrong or evil is just a point of view. A decision to make, is, "do I want to understand?" One's reality will lie within what is understood. Stepping outside that reality allows one freedom to go anywhere.
- I am a long time Buddhist. I have had a long exposure to both a dysfunctional family and a Buddhist Master. And it is still no cake walk dealing with my family. I am going to try to delete some of my emotion in writing this post! My family member has taken to seeing a Mister on the side. She is married, visits me telling her supposed love one she will be enjoying me and my wife. But in reality is visiting as much as possible a long lost high school boyfriend. I recently tell my Brother of my anger over being used this way. He reacts by challenging me as not practicing Buddhism because I have not already cut out my anger. Now, I am angry at him! I trust him by confiding in him of my anger, and he betrays me, I think, by taking a cheap shot at me. I think these circumstances would bring anger and disgust to any healthy person. But then, my family is not that healthy. I will deal with this, but it is bullshit and anger... that all my Buddhist training did not prepare me for.
- —Guest Long time
- I find this article extremely helpful, and also that it seems to be fully educational, not based on misleading statements or half-truths. Me and my mother have been practising Buddhism, and it sometimes it seems so difficult to let go of negativity. My anger always causes rifts between me and my loved ones, pride being a very big problem for me. Thank you for having written something so useful, and sharing it with us.
- —Guest Lau Siaw Ee
dealing wit anger
- I am still a very young buddhist but i discover wwhen you conquer anger. you will be very peaceful.(Bliss) the feeling of blissfulness is very different from peacefulness. Its like u are in heaven.This kind of state no money on earth can buy.
- —Guest Nyima
The Razor's edge
- I'm going to be completely honest with myself, by saying that anger and impatience and pride which also feeds anger in the form of shame are my biggest defects. I'm a gnostic aspirant which has a TON to do with Buddhist ethics. I must say it's not easy to walk that razor's edge and keep my anger in check. I've started meditating on anger and realizing that everything passes, not easy to do, but helpful nonetheless. Avoiding situations that cause anger is easier said than done. I think what one has to also accept is that difficult situations which can cause anger may and often times do arise. It is up to me to decide if I will form an attachment to the anger ....or not.
- —Guest Gina
Working with anger in Buddhist Practice
- When I got clean from drugs a couple of decades ago, I suddenly realized whilst I wasn't using anything to silent or sedate my raw emotions; I was left with my own garbage to clean up. Instead of repressing or suppressing my feelings which had been a life long practice & pattern. I decided to face my anger head on & give it a voice. I found an isolated place & I screamed until I felt the full brunt of my anger & I was spent. I sat & became very still & found peace. Later I used that experience as a motivator. It showed me how anger grows and feeds on itself. It allowed me to understand how undisciplined, destructive and under resourced one is in that state, no matter how learned or skillful. I learned to read, feel and settle emotions or feelings without seeking an external target. It was a great moment in a growth spurt of awareness. It was a great moment or a growth spurt in awareness. I am a work in progress & I face the my world & the world & I continue to grow.
- —Guest Margot-deepa
wish somebody helps
- I seem to fall in love with the wrong guy . Economically he depends 100% on me . Sometimes I almost belive that he loves me . But I don't trust him at all , caught him lying a thousand times ,but he has this way of explaining that makes you end up being the bad one . Like today since morning his phone rings but he doesn't answer it . Trust me he will come with a nice excuse . Since I met him ,my life has become a mess and I am angry with him for most of the time . Suddenly I have started to feel old ,tired , gained a lot weight . with yoga and meditation for about one week ,I managed to lose weight , became quite energetic and full of life and then went back to him and stopped everything and back to depression . I have many friends but I just felt like maybe somebody will help me with this emotional turbulence I am passing through . I just need rest and peace . I am a good person and this really hurts
- —Guest Jean Oscar
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